I never had to come out as fat.
When you grow up overweight, everyone notices — not just your classmates, who are too young to have mastered the art of tact, but also friends’ parents and teachers. I knew I was fat because people told me I was fat, either directly (a slap to the stomach and an unkind word) or in subtler ways (having a teacher rifle through my lunch box and comment on the contents). I felt shame over my size long before I had any concept of my sexuality, and years after coming out as gay, I still feel anxious identifying as fat.
As an openly gay writer, one of the questions I’m asked most often is, “Were you bullied growing up?” And the answer is yes, but it’s never the answer they’re looking for. In many ways I was lucky to have come of age in a liberal enclave where my sexuality was accepted if not embraced. Oh, sure, I’ve had the word “f*ggot” hurled at me — and the sad truth is, I’d be shocked if a gay man hadn’t — but it was always secondary. The real source of my bullying was the extra weight I’ve carried since childhood. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve been called a “f*ggot” to my face, but I couldn’t tell you how often someone has made a dig about my weight…
New research shows works by writers such as Charles Dickens and Téa Obreht sharpen our ability to understand others’ emotions – more than thrillers or romance novels
If you’re still spouting bullshit racist rhetoric about how “we’re all human, man” I’m going to have to stop you right there because there have been peer-reviewed and published studies that state plainly that being “colorblind” is a form of racism and increases interracial tension.
For mainstream American liberals, its not enough to outright minimize or deny the existence of structured racial inequality in America, as well as their own shrouded prejudice and this is what especially aggravates me about their politics, against, lets say a hardened conservative. They have to violate important/vulnerable spaces and conversations to “politely engage” with you about your “overreacting” and “reading too much into issues” as well. For liberals, racism is either the extent of joining white supremacist groups, or it doesn’t exist. Its not the motivations behind gentrification, cultural appropriation, tokenization, white savior complexes, pinkwashing, police brutality, neoimperialism, etc. The insidious manner in which white supremacist attitudes/notions are state sanctioned and transformed into policies are too difficult to read into or properly dissect in our illustrious “post-racial” society. Not only do liberals not want to engage in such analytical discussions that interrogate the nature of racial dynamics, but they will propose you don’t either, because that’s divisive. You cause our demise as a society when you dare to discuss your own suffering and pose the residual effects of documented -isms this nation has inflicted on your demographic.
That’s typical liberal logic.
That to me is more dangerous than conservatism, especially in a post-civil rights, black president era that requires more covert policies. The emotional manipulation and mental gymnastics it requires most liberals to patently ignore economical, judicial and geopolitical disparity amongst most racialized groups and the dominant white class in favor of arguments such “well whose stopping you now? there aren’t any “no coloreds allowed” signs anymore”. In an age where “race is no longer a detrimental factor”, exploitation of inner city youth through the prison industrial complex becomes an issue that black people are responsible for, dead Yemeni children are an unfortunate case, but “necessary collateral damage to fight the enemy” and Congress “needs to intervene” in foreign affiars when political turmoil arises in any given region, though America has been an empire for the past century, that has its claws on the throats of most nations.
Neoliberalism upholds the status quo, while sparing a couple cheap niceties about oppressed classes and is then regarded as the dichotomous factor to conservatism.
im rly charmed by the awkward insults mras try to come up with so here is LEGBEARD THE CLAMHURT, terror of the high subreddits (aka me irl)
While the US government is shut down, the Women, Infants, and Children (WIC) Food and Nutrition program will not be receiving its federal funding. Because WIC generally provides infant formula and baby food, many community food programs do not regularly stock these items, leaving the 9 million Americans enrolled in WIC with few local resources to help meet this crucial daily need. Some WIC offices are remaining open for the next few weeks through state support or emergency funds, while others are shutting their doors.
In order to help these WIC families, and the many others who were already struggling to feed their children without WIC, feministhulk.net will host a list of local formula and baby food resources and donation drives.
This says it all
The Indian Child Welfare Act states that Native American children can only be placed with non-Native families as a last resort. In South Dakota, however, this law has been ignored, resulting in a large number of native children who are isolated from their culture and familiar way of life.
Help us investigate South Dakota’s foster care system!
seeing tweet pics of people throwing away perfectly good Barilla pasta, perfectly good food, as a way of “boycotting Barilla” and stickin it to em is the reason why i will never fuck with gay inc,the mainstream LGBT agenda, or a queer politic located in royally unchecked whiteness and class privilege
you wanna donate your Barilla pasta to charity and never buy it again?
a truly ineffective method of social change. won’t bring you marriage equality any faster. but hey that’s your prerogative
you wanna chuck perfectly good boxes of food in the garbage because somehow that symbolizes your commitment to marriage equality and LGBT rights?
miss me with that bullshit
our government is currently working to cut food stamps which will impact millions of people living in this country. people who were already struggling to put food on their tables before
meanwhile food prices continue to go up and the minimum wage isn’t rising fast enough to meet the higher costs of living
and your privileged self righteous ass is going to chuck perfectly good food out of some half-shack sign of solidarity?!
again, miss me with that bullshit
Look at yourselves and how you’re acting right now. A WoC dares to point out that Rush Limbaugh has been saying racist and sexist shit to WoC for years and y’all lose your shit! You pull out every trick in the book in an attempt to derail the conversation. I’ve heard everything from “it’s not always about race” to “you cunts just hate white people”.
The way y’all are acting right now is why I stripped myself of the “feminist” title. I came into this shit real naive. I was under the impression that we were fighting for all women. You know trans*, cis, straight, gay, bi, asexual, pansexual, PoC, white people, all of us. I learned pretty motherfucking quickly I was wrong. It first started with the cis white feminists complaining about using trans* inclusive language. All you had to do, at the very fucking least, was say people instead of women. You moaned, you complained, and you cried. One of you even said “why can’t we have something for ourselves”.
The second strike came with the harassment and belittling of asexual and demisexual people. You laughed at, mocked, and harassed people for their sexual identity. You even had the nerve to tell them that their identity wasn’t a valid one. I don’t know about everyone else, but I think that’s some fucked up shit.
What really pisses me off beyond all reason is the constant dismissal and harassment of WoC. We aren’t allowed to discuss our experiences with sexism and racism without having some white feminist™ drop in with her two cents on the matter. We get told by you how we should think, act, and feel. Our experiences with racism don’t matter to you. Whenever we talk about the things we go through on a daily basis, we’re told we are overreacting, we’re “being too sensitive”, and that “it’s not always about race”. It’s either that or we get the educated white feminist™ who thinks they can jump in and tell us what really is and isn’t racist.
Intersectionality doesn’t exist with you people. You treat MoC as if they are the most sexist men on the face of the earth when it is white men who control society. White cis men make the most money in this country. White cis men control the media. White cis men control the government. You just want to ignore that though. It’s much easier to blame MoC for everything, isn’t it?
Until you people learn to understand and examine your privilege, I refuse to call myself a feminist. You’re always asking and wondering why PoC, trans* people, and others avoid y’all like the plague, here is your answer. As of right now, feminism only fights for the equality of white middle class cis women. You have a hell of a lot of work to do if you ever want to regain our trust.
Our hearts go out to Veronica Brown and her family this week! After being surrounded by the love and support of her biological family, Veronica was sent to live permanently with the non-Native adoptive parents and given extremely limited visitations with her father. Native-Americans everywhere are mourning the loss of Baby Veronica, and are extremely disappointed in this blatant ignorance of ICWA!
trigger warning: gender-based violence: sexual, physical
(The Root) — “He’d take wooden bats and hit me. I thought he loved me, but he’d turn around and beat me and all the girls in his house. But you just can’t get up and leave. He would threaten me about my family… I was afraid of getting hurt, so I just stayed.”
The speaker, who says she met her pimp when she was 11 years old, is seen in shadow to protect her identity. But you can tell that she’s black, and she sounds like she’s still young.
She’s not the only one who fits that description. In another segment of a YouTube video projected onto a screen in a packed Washington Convention Center ballroom at the Congressional Black Caucus Foundation’s Annual Legislative Conference session on Modern Slavery and Sexual Trafficking is “Erika.” She says she was 13 or 14 years old when she was lured into forced prostitution.
"I was shaped like a boy. Very stringy, very thin, very underdeveloped. It flabbergasts me that the people who were coming to buy us — the Johns, if you will — they knew I was a child. "
Two former high-ranking officials in one Pennsylvania school district are facing a criminal investigation over shocking racist and sexist text messages that were found on their work cell phones, authorities confirmed on Sunday.
In a statement to the Philadelphia Inquirer, Chester County District Attorney Thomas Hogan said that his office launched the probe after it received a transcript of the texts from district personnel.
An investigation by the Daily Local News found that the cell phone accounts were linked to former Coatesville Area School Superintendent Richard Como and former Director of Athletics and Activities Jim Donato. Both men had unexpectedly resigned during the first week of school in late August.
A timeline of events from the Daily Local Newsshowed that the text messages were sent in June and a copy was provided to the school board in August after being discovered by the district’s IT department.
According to the paper, “the school board was made aware of the text messages and was prepared to allow Como and Donato to remain in their positions until the transcripts were leaked to the Chester County District Attorney’s Office, prompting a criminal investigation.”
In a transcript of the text messages obtained byDaily Local News, one of the men suggests that all African-Americans should have the N-word for their last name.
“All should have whatever first names they want… then last name is N*GGER!” he wrote. “Leroy N*gger, Preacher N*gger, Night train n*gger, clarence n*gger, Latoya n*gger, Thelma n*gger and so on.”
“Hahahahahahahahhahahahaha could have a whole homeromms of N*gger!” another message said. “Hahahahahahaha! Will N*gger report to office, pardon the interruption but will N*gger report to nurses office. N*gger to lunch now!”
One message complained that there was “no f*cking way that ape banged that white piece? WTF is going on with these white pieces taking n*gger cock! Me no understand!”
The men also apparently used their work phones to have a long, racist and sexist conversation about the Miss USA pageant.
“OMg! N*gger OUT!” one man wrote when as an African-American contestant was voted off. “WTF SKINNY B*TCH. Give good head! Trumped!”
Other texts contained slurs about Jews and Arabs.
On Sunday, about 80 people had gathered at the historic Bethel A.M.E. Church for the 75th anniversary celebration of the local NAACP chapter on the same day that news of the investigation broke.
Chester County Commissioner Ryan Costello told the group that the incident was “not a reflection of our character.”
these the people we supposed to trust to educate our kids tho…I hope they get into car wrecks and remain on life support for the rest of their miserable shit stained lives