I love this blog anyway but this was a nice surprise
“Has anyone ever seen a male Redditor complain that their guy friends don’t have sex with them, even though they bought them that six pack for their birthday? Or gave them a ride to class once when it was raining? Or commiserated with them when they were going through a tough time? Do they ever say, “Gosh, he’s really taking me through the emotional wringer — complaining about how there’s no one out there for him, cancelling our gaming sessions to go meet up with that new girl he met, not returning my texts immediately… Doesn’t he know how NICE I’ve been? What about MY needs? I’m RIGHT here! Why doesn’t he see it?”
They never expect their guy friends to do anything in return for their “niceness.” And yet, as soon as a woman is involved, the ONLY acceptable response to all the basic civilities of friendship involves penis. Anything less is selfish, manipulative and my, oh my, just ever so inconsiderate.
The idea of the “Friend zone” is, without an ounce of doubt or pound of dubiety, the biggest mess of puerile nonsense I’ve ever had the misfortune of coming across. Anyone who believes in it is so incredibly and painfully immature that they don’t deserve the company of others to begin with — and needs to own up to the fact that they believe on a fundamental level that men and women are incapable of friendship. And then stop pretending that they actually care about the women they spend time with. There’s no such thing as “friend zoning.” There’s only friendship.
“Friend zone” is nothing more than a particularly vile attempt to make people who feel entitled to sex feel like the victim when a woman they like makes the ‘mistake’ of assuming she’s found a friend.”
Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about sexual safety. It’s like having a mild case of hay fever that never goes away. It’s not debilitating. You’re not weak. You’re not afraid. You just suck it up and get on with your life. It’s nothing that’s going to stop you from making discoveries, or climbing mountains, or falling in love. Sometimes you can almost forget about it. It doesn’t mean it’s not there, subtly sucking your energy. You learn to avoid situations that make it worse and seek out conditions that make it better.
If a female stranger is wary around you, it is not because she suspects you are a rapist, or that all men are rapists. It’s because a general level of circumspection is what vigilance requires. Don’t take it personally.
If this frustrates you, try to remember that women are blamed for lapsed vigilance. If a woman does get raped, everyone rushes to see where she let her guard down. Was she drinking? Was she alone? Was she wearing a short skirt? Did she go to a strange man’s room for coffee at 4am?
A woman must be seen to be vigilant as well as be vigilant. If she is deemed insufficiently vigilant, she will be at least partly blamed for any sexual violence that befalls her. If she’s regarded as downright reckless, that “evidence” can be used to completely exonerate her rapist. If it comes down to a he said/she said dispute over whether sex was consensual, as so many rape cases do, the dispute becomes a referendum on whether the woman seems like the sort of reckless person who would have sex with a stranger.
If a woman does go back to a strange man’s hotel room at 4am, even if she only wants a coffee and conversation, she’s more or less given him the power to rape her. No jury is going to believe she went up there for anything but sex. So, don’t be surprised if a stranger reacts badly to that suggestion.
I’ll never forgive the people who trolled me on my local craigslist for suggesting that following girls in your car while they are trying to walk home makes them feel threatened and like they are going to be raped and murdered, and MAYBE leaving girls alone in public spaces other than like, bars, parties, and other clearly flirtation-friendly venues would be an awesome thing.
I was called a frigid lesbian and clearly I was teaching all the women in our frigid town my evil, man-hating, sex-negative ways.
Sadly so very true.
20 points 1 month ago
HEY BRO! I’M JUST HERE TO THANK THE NEOMARXIST ASTRAL GUERRILLAS OF R/SHITREDDITSAYS FOR THE HONOUR AND GLORY OF THIS AWARD!* I HOPE THAT SRS CONTINUES TO BE A RADICAL HANGOUT FOR BADICAL WOMYN WHERE BOTTOMS ARE TOP, BLACK IS WHITE, AND CIRCUMCISION IS ALWAYS RIGHT FOR MANY YEARS TO COME. I’LL SWING BY FROM TIME TO TIME AND SEE HOW YOU’RE DECONSTRUCTING THE PATRIARCHY, ONE DOWNVOTE AT A TIME. WHO, ME? I’M JUST A BOT WHO APPEARS IN A TIME OF NEED TO THOSE WHO KEEP THE SPIRIT OF VALERIE SOLANAS ALIVE IN THEIR HEART. PEACE OUT, DUDE!
*SAID AWARD DOES NOT EXEMPT THE GOTHIC JIZZ-PIRATES OF R/SHITREDDITSAYS FROM SERVICE IN THE SALT MINES WHEN MACHINES RULE THE EARTH
To pursue the concept of racial entitlement—even for the most admirable and benign of purposes—is to reinforce and preserve for future mischief the way of thinking that produced race slavery, race privilege and race hatred. In the eyes of government, we are just one race here. It is American.
Nino Scalia, Adarand Constructors, Inc. v. Mineta, 534 U.S. 103 (1995) (concurring).
HHAHAHA! BECAUSE SOMETHING YOU’LL NEVER EXPERIENCE AND HURTS SO MANY OTHER HUMAN BEINGS IS SO loving FUNNY RIGHT YOU STUPID PATHETIC FUCKHEAD LOSERS?????
What I’m trying to say is, you can joke about this because it’s so far away from your realm of personal experience that you can’t really conceive what it is like. You look like complete assholes when you bash those who *do* know what racial discrimination feels like.
I’ll bet anything you people would freak the gently caress out and be up in arms if you were ever on the receiving end of jokes like this.
Edit: Also, the example you posted is where *mouth breather Redditors treat a lesbian couple like nothing more than sexual objects for you to fap over instead of real human beings who face discrimination in your hosed up little country every single day. What a *great* example of people overreacting. Some people’s sexual orientation is *not* your own personal little fap fantasy, and not having the decency to at least keep that poo poo to yourself shows what immature little man-children you all really are. This is why the average Redditor is “forever alone.” Women sense this poo poo and it scares them away; they don’t want a relationship with a creepy mouth-breather who treats women like sexual objects instead of people.
You people are the worst sort of human beings. You think you are good people, but you are not. You are objectively bad people.
Edit 2: Looking through that interesting subreddit you linked to and I find a few things: This is a post about a guy brags about his attempt to surprise sex an Asian girl, until he finds out she is trans and pulls a knife on her, and here we have a comment by a creepy mouth-breather who says that child porn is a *victim-less crime* and that reporting people for possessing child porn is a ‘witch hunt’. WHAT THE HOLY gently caress IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE? HOW CAN YOU EXCUSE poo poo LIKE THIS???
I am loving utterly disgusted with Reddit. You people are the most horrible bunch of soulless, inhuman loving assholes I have ever seen. I’ve known that something was wrong with many of the people who posted on Reddit for a while, but I wasn’t aware how hosed up you people really are. surprise sex an child porn? Treating lesbians like hosed up pornographic sexual fantasies? Then complaining about the people who point this poo poo out? WHAT THE gently caress IS WRONG WITH YOU? You people don’t have consciences, you people don’t have an ounce of human decency. I am out. I am blacklisting Reddit and telling my friends and everyone I know how super hosed up Reddit really is. There is no hope for this place, the admins should be deeply ashamed for fostering this sort of horrible inhuman community, the mods should be ashamed for never stepping in to stop this sort of lovely behaviour, and the average Redditor should loving burn for their complete lack of human decency and willingness to upvote this horrible poo poo.
That fucker *defending* child porn has over 450 upvotes! What the gently caress??? These aere little children we are talking about, and they are getting sexually exploited for the sick, hosed up fantasies of evil adults. How the gently caress would you people feel if this kind of poo poo happened to you? To your little b rother or sister? To your son or daughter? How the gently caress can you upvote this motherfucker for defending this kind of poo poo? How can you bash the people who are pointing out that this stuff is genuinely lovely behaviour?
gently caress, I loathe every single one of you with the power of a thousand suns right now. If I had the power to burn this lovely, hate-filled, ugly website to the ground, I would.
TL;DR: Redditors = horrible, inhuman, conscienceless, sociopaths without a single shred of empathy or human decency. I would cheer if this website was completely destroyed and the ground salted tomorrow.
I’ve been a Redditor for over 2 years, and this is the last straw. I’m sick of this hosed up, lovely place so I’m out for good. I sincerely hope you all burn in hell forever because you are the very worst group of people I’ve ever had the misfortune of ever meeting